Becoming genuinely interested in other people

Pernah tengok kucing peliharaan? Kucing tu tak perlu kerja kuat pun untuk cari makan. Kucing tak belajar pun untuk tarik perhatian orang, buatkan orang senang dengannya.

You knew by some divine instinct that you can make more friends in two months by becoming genuinely interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get other people interested in you.

Hakikatnya, manusia tidak tertarik dengan diri orang lain, tidak tertarik dengan kamu, tidak tertarik dengan saya. Mereka hanya tertarik dengan diri mereka. Bahkan satu kajian yang dibuat, perkataan “I(saya)” digunakan sebanyak 3900 kali dalam 500 perbualan telefon. See!!

KAEDAH

Jika kita hanya cuba untuk membuatkan manusia suka pada kita, mungkin kita akan dapat kawan, tapi bukan kawan yang benar-benar baik.

Alfred Adler, the famous Viennese psychologist, wrote a book entitled What Life Should Mean to You. In that book he says: "It is the individual who is not interested in his fellow men who has the greatest difficulties in life and provides the greatest injury to others. It is from among such individuals that all human failures spring."

Seseorang boleh memenangi perhatian, masa dan kerjasama walaupun daripada orang yang paling terkenal pun dengan cara genuinely interested in them (benar-benar tertarik dengan mereka).

Jika kamu mahu mendapat kawan, tegurlah mereka dengan penuh minat. Let’s greet people with animation and enthusiasm. Apabila seseorang menelefon kamu, sebutlah salam, jawablah panggilannya dengan nada yang menunjukkan kamu betul-betul gembira dapat berbual dengannya. Kamu bukan sahaja dapt ramai kawan, bahkan dapat lebih ramai mad’u.

Publilius Syrus, remarked; "We are interested in others when they are interested in us."

CONTOH CERITA

I spent an evening in the dressing room of Howard Thurston the last time he appeared on Broadway -Thurston was the acknowledged dean of magicians. For forty years he had traveled all over the world, time and again, creating illusions, mystifying audiences, and making people gasp with astonishment. More than 60 million people had paid admission to his show, and he had made almost $2 million in profit. I asked Mr. Thurston to tell me the secret of his success. His schooling certainly had nothing to do with it, for he ran away from home as a small boy, became a hobo, rode in boxcars, slept in haystacks, begged his food from door to door, and learned to read by looking out of boxcars at signs along the railway. Did he have a superior knowledge of magic? No, he told me hundreds of books had been written about legerdemain and scores of people knew as much about it as he did. But he had two things that the others didn't have. First, he had the ability to put his personality across the footlights. He was a master showman. He knew human nature. Everything he did, every gesture, every intonation of his voice, every lifting of an eyebrow had been carefully rehearsed in advance, and his actions were timed to split seconds. But, in addition to that, Thurston had a genuine interest in people. He told me that many magicians would look at the audience and say to themselves, "Well, there is a bunch of suckers out there, a bunch of hicks; I'll fool them all right." But Thurston's method was totally different. He told me that every time he went on stage he said to himself: "I am grateful because these people come to see me, They make it possible for me to make my living in a very agreeable way. I'm going to give them the very best I possibly can." He declared he never stepped in front of the footlights without first saying to himself over and over: "I love my audience. I love my audience." Ridiculous? Absurd? You are privileged to think anything you like. I am merely passing it on to you without comment as a recipe used by one of the most famous magicians of all time.

KESIMPULAN

Jika kamu hendak orang lain sukakan kamu, jika kamu benar-benar mahu bina persahabatan yang sebenar, jika kamu mahu menolong orang lain dan pada masa yang sama menolong diri kamu sendiri, simpanlah prinsip ini dalam kepala kamu

‘Jadilah orang yang betul-betul tertarik dengan orang lain dengan ikhlas. Become genuinely interested in other people.